Always think in terms of what you want instead of what you don’t want. Remember the mind always goes towards what you are thinking about so think about what you want.

Substitute the "don’t want to" for the word "can’t". It changes meaning by putting things in a more truthful perspective.

Always consider your options. Quitting may be an option but so may be finding another approach. When you come up against an obstacle instead of quitting – ask yourself: How can I do this? What are my options?

Always treat to yourself (and others) with respect. That means – no more negative self talk. Never again will you call yourself names such as stupid, ugly, fat, useless or worthless or anything else hurtful. It doesn’t matter if anyone else calls you names; this is about how you treat yourself. It doesn’t matter if you believe you are stupid or ugly or fat etc. You will from now on avoid calling yourself hurtful names and you will from now on avoid speaking to yourself in a cruel manner. If you find yourself slipping, use Thought Stopping (Say: STOP) and Thought Redirection (Example: I deserve to treat myself with kindness and respect. I am smart enough to figure this out or I refuse to poison my body with junk food. I deserve better).

Surround yourself with positive people whenever possible. Any negative people in your life? Avoid them, ignore them, get rid of them or change how you interpret their behavior. If you decide that you don’t want to end the relationship with them, you can always change your perspective about them and what they are saying. For example, your boss is yelling again. Look at it from the perspective that s/he must be really unhappy with their life for them to act out this way. Choose to feel compassion instead of anger. Respond to them with kindness instead of anger – it may actually defuse the situation. There are always options. You always have a choice on how you want to interpret any message.

Perseverance. If what I’m doing isn’t getting me the results I want. I will try something else.

Persistence. I will continue to work towards my goal until I achieve the result I want.

Think of a role model. Think of someone you know (or a fictional character on a TV show or movie) who has the attitude you want to acquire. Imagine you are that person for a few moments. How does that person think? What would they be saying to themselves? What action would they take? How would they hold their body? What tone of voice would they use? What would their beliefs be about the subject? ("I don’t know" is not an acceptable answer, use your imagination and come up with something).

What music goes with this attitude? Create your own soundtrack. You can make your own cd or tape that contains a series of songs that inspire you, calm you, make you happy etc.

What pictures inspire you? Create a scrapbook of photos or pictures or drawings that represent the attitude you want. If you don’t want to create a scrapbook, then buy a few pictures to hang on the wall that you can look at when you need inspiration.

Create a motto. A motto is a personal statement about who you are or who you aspire to be. Choose your motto carefully and make it meaningful to yourself. You can have fun with your motto and make an anagram out of it or write it in another language (i.e. Latin or Greek). Put it on a "post it" and tape it to your computer screen or somewhere where you will look at it ever day.

What symbols represent your desired attitude? Symbols are really powerful tools. Find symbols that have a meaning for you. For example: a person may choose a religious symbol to remind them to keep faith. A symbol can be in the form of a god from mythology, a religious symbol, an animal, a tarot card, a star or geometric design, a logo etc. Use your imagination. Create something where you can have your symbol close to you (example: making a medicine bag, the designing of a ring, getting a tattoo, creating a stamp or stencil, buying a statue or action figure, making something). The key is: attach meaning to the symbol – anchor it.

Design a ritual to invoke the attitude. Rituals are designed to create a state of mind. You can either create an elaborate ritual or a simple ritual such as saying a key word to yourself and making a small gesture. A ritual can contain affirmations, prayers, poems, songs, sayings, quotes or self-hypnosis statements.